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by A. Martin (via wnq-writers)
by Cesare Pavese; Feria d’Agosto
(via animesalve)
niente da fare, ogni volta che su facebook incappo in gente che critica e ridicolizza i veg*ani mi vado a guardare il profilo e le foto che trovo sono sempre le stesse: ciccione davanti a barbecue, ciccione metallaro, ciccione vestito da vichingo o guerriero medievale, ciccione e basta e una grande fetta di palestrati abbronzati col maori sul petto.
Io a vent'anni non conosco gli abbracci e decido di aspettare. Aspetto la creatura assegnata.
by Erri De Luca, Tre cavalli (via lelettere)
by Elias Canetti, Il cuore segreto dell'orologio, 1987 (framm. del 1980)
by Geordie Greig, Colazione con Lucian Freud.
(via ilcantodeicartolai)
Good advice on what to do when you find yourself near a racist mouthy twat who is spouting out their crap at some unfortunate person.
NEVER engage the perpetrator. He (and it is usually he) is looking for confrontation. Instead speak to the person he is abusing. Say hello. Introduce yourself. Shake his or her hand. And just stand with them. Keep talking. About anything. Weather. Bus schedules. Football. This kind of bullying never works against a group of people having a conversation. Usually a single person travelling or a mom with a kid or maximum, two women are targeted.
Form a group of people with and around them if you can. Don’t tell them they are not alone. Just don’t let them be alone. I speak from experience. Once, I encountered a young girl wearing a hijab being abused as a terrorist by a drunk man on a train. I just went and sat beside her and started a conversation with her. After a while, the dude lost interest. I had a lovely chat with a young student from Qatar. She wanted to study literature while her dad was only prepared to pay for engineering or commerce as he wanted her to join the family business. It helped her feel safe and it expanded my horizons.
This is known in behavioral psychology as “non-complimentary behavior”; by not fueling the aggression of another person and you can flip the whole script of all their expectations, and without any footholds for their aggression (like direct provocation and confrontation/conflict) to launch into further tirades against, the aggressor can’t continue their angry scene-building. The more people who participate in script-flipping, the more successful it gets, as in this post you see with the advice to form a protective group between the bigot and their target for that very purpose.
There’s an NPR podcast called Invisibilia which goes into detail about how it works and what sort of people rely on it everyday professionally and for survival alike, in their Flipping the Script episode.
Ooohhhh
questa sera sono uscito con la mia cotta dei primi anni di liceo, quasi una decade dopo, e ci sono cose che non cambiano mai, e sono queste:
- lo sguardo dolce e lucido che si fa spazio tra lunghe ciglia e gli zigomi alti, mai disattento;
- le narici del tuo naso grazioso che si gonfiano per esprimere il tuo dissenso o il tuo stupore;
- il modo tuo di salutarmi con due baci, il primo di sbieco, fugace, sempre troppo vicino alle labbra, e il secondo pieno e umido, stampato tondo al centro della guancia, con la mano che mi avvolge piano la nuca e mi accarezza.
by Mario Benedetti, Chi di noi, 1953 - Prima parte Miguel - cap. 7 (via somehow—here)
Ma a voi l'hanno mai fatta una compilation? A me no, ma penso proprio di meritarmela e che cazz
When I’m at Sephora with my boyfriend
